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Self-awareness +Esteem

Self-awareness + esteem


Do You Matter?

Do You Matter?

Five questions that highlight the quality of your connections

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

What it Means to be a Self.

What it Means to be a Self.

Where Does the "I" of ME Live?

Concepts

+3

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

How mislabeling our experience is keeping us stuck

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

The sci-fi legend's practice of writing from the future

Concepts

+4

This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

Why You Don’t See What Shapes Your Thinking

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

D.W. Winnicott's unsettling theory about the catastrophe you're still waiting for

Concepts

+7

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Invention of Self-Doubt

The Invention of Self-Doubt

Why Our Doubts Say More About the World Than About Us

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Concepts

+4

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

The Easiest People to Control

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

Notes from an Ontological Misfit

Concepts

+4

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

On Becoming a Person

On Becoming a Person

Carl Rogers on the painful gap between our true selves and performed selves

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Subtle Patterns That Predict Divorce—According to the Psychologist Who Can Foresee It with 93.6% Accuracy

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

How Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology Explains the Modern Self

Concepts

+5

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+12

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession

The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession

The intrusive and inescapable high that isn't love, at all.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

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