Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern draws on psychology, philosophy, and the history of the mind to find language for the forces shaping your interior life.
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Amanda Stern is the author of thirteen books and the creator of the How to Live Newsletter, read by 13,000+ subscribers. She writes about psychology, philosophy, and the invisible forces shaping our interior lives. She also created Kinesthetic Realism, a method for writers who struggle to translate emotion onto the page.
“So many of us live our lives avoiding our feelings of fear, as though our feelings exist outside of us. What we overlook is that we can only fear a feeling that we’ve already felt. And if we’ve already felt it, then we have our evidence that we can survive the thing we’re convinced will destroy us.”
-The How to Live Newsletter
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