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Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.
Oct 01, 2025

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves
Sep 24, 2025

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back
Sep 17, 2025

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need
Sep 10, 2025

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time
Aug 20, 2025

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Easiest People to Control
Aug 13, 2025

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves
Jul 09, 2025

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience
Jun 25, 2025

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Unspoken Grammar of Love
Jun 11, 2025

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Subtle Patterns That Predict Divorce—According to the Psychologist Who Can Foresee It with 93.6% Accuracy

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked
Jun 04, 2025

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

How Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology Explains the Modern Self

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival
May 14, 2025

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste
May 07, 2025

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

Why this and not that?

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing what really drives us.

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Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing what really drives us.

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