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Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+9

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Concepts

+4

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Concepts

+5

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Easiest People to Control

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Con Artist Convincing Millions To Hack Reality

The Con Artist Convincing Millions To Hack Reality

Millions of people are using mysterious numbers to manifest love, money, and healing — but few really know their backstory.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+1

What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

On Tom Lehrer, Malcolm-Jamal Warner, and collapsed space.

Concepts

+6

Things I'm loving: 2 books, 1 artist and 1 song.

Things I'm loving: 2 books, 1 artist and 1 song.

What's getting me through

Small Delights

+2

On Becoming a Person

On Becoming a Person

Carl Rogers on the painful gap between our true selves and performed selves

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

From Puppies to Panic: ASK ME ANYTHING

From Puppies to Panic: ASK ME ANYTHING

Answering readers' questions about mental health!

Premium

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The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Subtle Patterns That Predict Divorce—According to the Psychologist Who Can Foresee It with 93.6% Accuracy

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

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The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

How Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology Explains the Modern Self

Concepts

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What Survives the Years: 7 Books That Shaped My Thinking.

What Survives the Years: 7 Books That Shaped My Thinking.

On Reading, Rebuilding, and the Fragility of the Self We Archive

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Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+12

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

Why this and not that?

Small Delights

+5

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

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