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The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste
May 07, 2025

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

Why this and not that?

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth
Apr 30, 2025

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.
Apr 23, 2025

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows
Apr 09, 2025

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion
Mar 26, 2025

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Necessary Questions: Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self
Mar 12, 2025

Necessary Questions: Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
A Private Walking Tour Through Malta in 84 Photos.
Mar 09, 2025

A Private Walking Tour Through Malta in 84 Photos.

Follow me and meet God. No, really.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession
Mar 05, 2025

The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession

The intrusive and inescapable high that isn't love, at all.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor
Jan 29, 2025

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

John Sarno and the History of Psychosomatic Illness

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Psychology of Avoidance: Why We Sabotage Ourselves and How to Break the Cycle
Jan 26, 2025

The Psychology of Avoidance: Why We Sabotage Ourselves and How to Break the Cycle

A Q & A

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.
Jan 22, 2025

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Albert Bandura on Self-Efficacy: The Science of Confidence and the Belief in One’s Potential
Jan 08, 2025

Albert Bandura on Self-Efficacy: The Science of Confidence and the Belief in One’s Potential

Why Confidence is a Practice, Not a Trait

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing the stories behind what drives us.

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Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing the stories behind what drives us.

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