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The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself
Oct 22, 2025

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Proust's First Selfie
Oct 08, 2025

Proust's First Selfie

The Victorian parlour game that became a cultural mirror.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.
Oct 01, 2025

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves
Sep 24, 2025

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
A Cabinet of Curiosities for the Human Experience
Sep 03, 2025

A Cabinet of Curiosities for the Human Experience

Discover the Wellcome Collection, London’s free museum of health, history, and imagination.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time
Aug 20, 2025

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Easiest People to Control
Aug 13, 2025

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Things I'm loving: 2 books, 1 artist and 1 song.
Jul 16, 2025

Things I'm loving: 2 books, 1 artist and 1 song.

What's getting me through

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
On Becoming a Person
Jul 02, 2025

On Becoming a Person

Carl Rogers on the painful gap between our true selves and performed selves

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked
Jun 04, 2025

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

How Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology Explains the Modern Self

What Survives the Years: 7 Books That Shaped My Thinking.
May 28, 2025

What Survives the Years: 7 Books That Shaped My Thinking.

On Reading, Rebuilding, and the Fragility of the Self We Archive

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival
May 14, 2025

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Every Wednesday, Amanda Stern unearths the invisible forces that guide our thoughts, shape our choices, and define how we live.

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Every Wednesday, Amanda Stern unearths the invisible forces that guide our thoughts, shape our choices, and define how we live.

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