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The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

Proust's First Selfie

Proust's First Selfie

The Victorian parlour game that became a cultural mirror.

Small Delights

+2

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Concepts

+4

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Concepts

+4

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Easiest People to Control

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Subtle Patterns That Predict Divorce—According to the Psychologist Who Can Foresee It with 93.6% Accuracy

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

How Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology Explains the Modern Self

Concepts

+5

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+12

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

Why this and not that?

Small Delights

+4

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Learn Anything, Really

How to Learn Anything, Really

Richard Feynman’s Timeless Strategy

Concepts

+4

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

John Sarno and the History of Psychosomatic Illness

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

Albert Bandura on Self-Efficacy: The Science of Confidence and the Belief in One’s Potential

Albert Bandura on Self-Efficacy: The Science of Confidence and the Belief in One’s Potential

Why Confidence is a Practice, Not a Trait

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

Feeling Before Thinking: What Susan Sontag Taught Us About Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Feeling Before Thinking: What Susan Sontag Taught Us About Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Concepts

+5

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

For Adam W, and for you...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

On Glimmers and Grounding: A Guide to Rebalancing Your Nervous System

On Glimmers and Grounding: A Guide to Rebalancing Your Nervous System

Polyvagal Theory and the Vagus Nerve

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

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