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Change Your Life Using Design Thinking From IDEO.

Change Your Life Using Design Thinking From IDEO.

What happens when you stop trying to fix yourself—and start prototyping your life instead?

Concepts

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On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

How mislabeling our experience is keeping us stuck

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

The sci-fi legend's practice of writing from the future

Concepts

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This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

Why You Don’t See What Shapes Your Thinking

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Secret Life of Coping: The Private Strategies of an Anxious Person

The Secret Life of Coping: The Private Strategies of an Anxious Person

From the Mixed-Up Files of Ms. Amanda J. Sternweiler

Concepts

+3

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Invention of Self-Doubt

The Invention of Self-Doubt

Why Our Doubts Say More About the World Than About Us

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

Proust's First Selfie

Proust's First Selfie

The Victorian parlour game that became a cultural mirror.

Small Delights

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Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Concepts

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The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Concepts

+5

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Easiest People to Control

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Unspoken Grammar of Love

The Subtle Patterns That Predict Divorce—According to the Psychologist Who Can Foresee It with 93.6% Accuracy

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

The Unbearable Lightness of Being Disliked

How Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology Explains the Modern Self

Concepts

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Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+12

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

The Feeling of the Form: On the Nature of Taste

Why this and not that?

Small Delights

+5

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

How to Learn Anything, Really

How to Learn Anything, Really

Richard Feynman’s Timeless Strategy

Concepts

+4

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

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