A Small Library of Comfort for Anxious Times

We are not meant to manage fear alone. These resources have been my village.

The Most Important Parenting Question You've Never Been Asked

The well-meaning behavior that harms children

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

D.W. Winnicott's unsettling theory about the catastrophe you're still waiting for

What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

On Tom Lehrer, Malcolm-Jamal Warner, and collapsed space.

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

The Science of Connection: What Four Decades of Attachment Research Reveals About Our Deepest Human Bonds

Understanding the Invisible Architecture of Human Attachment

The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.

The Second Arrow of Awfulizing

How School Kills Wonder: NASA's Forgotten 1968 Study on Education's Silent War Against Creative Genius

George Land & Sir Ken Robinson on Acting Like a 5 Year Old.

BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'

The Thing That Didn't Leave.

Are You Really Free? The Silent Struggle That Might Be Holding You Back

Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Are You Suffering From The Invisible Legacy of Childhood Emotional Neglect?

D.W. Winnicott and the Good Enough Mother

Mental Health Related Holiday Gifts for EVERYONE of ALL AGES

A highly curated selection of my favorites.

How to Know if You Matter

Rosenberg's 5 item Mattering Scale

Growing Up Differently Wired

Debbie Reber and Tilt Parenting

TWO YEARS of HOW TO LIVE!

On Milestones and the Sad-Happies.

Men! Patriarchy is Bad For Your Mental Health.

bell hooks on The Will to Change

How to be Human: Andrew Solomon on the Meaning of Difference

Why we correct what we could embrace

The Fear of Public Scrutiny Powers Social Anxiety in Adults and Kids.

12 tactics that can help.

Rachel Carson on Helping Children to Wonder

How Nature is the Antidote to Loneliness

How Children Learn Who Is Allowed to Be Beautiful

Mamie Phipps Clark and the Doll Test

Are You A Normal Person; Are You Average? Read This Fascinating Piece of History & Discover Your True Individual Nature.

The End of Average

Bonding Over Shared Trauma Isn't Trauma Bonding...

How to Be Afraid and Do It Anyway

That time I told a story at The Moth

Dear Little Panicker, I am You All Grown Up, and Here are the Things I Want You To Know.