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What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

On Tom Lehrer, Malcolm-Jamal Warner, and collapsed space.

Concepts

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The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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The Science of Connection: What Four Decades of Attachment Research Reveals About Our Deepest Human Bonds

The Science of Connection: What Four Decades of Attachment Research Reveals About Our Deepest Human Bonds

Understanding the Invisible Architecture of Human Attachment

Concepts

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The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.

The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.

The Second Arrow of Awfulizing

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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How School Kills Wonder: NASA's Forgotten 1968 Study on Education's Silent War Against Creative Genius

How School Kills Wonder: NASA's Forgotten 1968 Study on Education's Silent War Against Creative Genius

George Land & Sir Ken Robinson on Acting Like a 5 Year Old.

Concepts

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BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'

BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'

The Thing That Didn't Leave.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

Are You Really Free? The Silent Struggle That Might Be Holding You Back

Are You Really Free? The Silent Struggle That Might Be Holding You Back

Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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Are You Suffering From The Invisible Legacy of Childhood Emotional Neglect?

Are You Suffering From The Invisible Legacy of Childhood Emotional Neglect?

D.W. Winnicott and the Good Enough Mother

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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Mental Health Related Holiday Gifts for EVERYONE of ALL AGES

Mental Health Related Holiday Gifts for EVERYONE of ALL AGES

A highly curated selection of my favorites.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

How to Know if You Matter

How to Know if You Matter

Rosenberg's 5 item Mattering Scale

Concepts

+5

Growing Up Differently Wired

Growing Up Differently Wired

Debbie Reber and Tilt Parenting

Childhood

+4

TWO YEARS of HOW TO LIVE!

TWO YEARS of HOW TO LIVE!

On Milestones and the Sad-Happies.

Childhood

+3

Men! Patriarchy is Bad For Your Mental Health.

Men! Patriarchy is Bad For Your Mental Health.

bell hooks on The Will to Change

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+3

How to be Human: Andrew Solomon on the Meaning of Difference

How to be Human: Andrew Solomon on the Meaning of Difference

Why we correct what we could embrace

Concepts

+5

The Fear of Public Scrutiny Powers Social Anxiety in Adults and Kids.

The Fear of Public Scrutiny Powers Social Anxiety in Adults and Kids.

12 tactics that can help.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

Rachel Carson on Helping Children to Wonder

Rachel Carson on Helping Children to Wonder

How Nature is the Antidote to Loneliness

Childhood

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“Give Me the Doll That Looks Nice”: Mamie Phipps Clark and the Black-White Doll Study

“Give Me the Doll That Looks Nice”: Mamie Phipps Clark and the Black-White Doll Study

The landmark psychological study that helped end school segregation.

Childhood

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Are You A Normal Person; Are You Average? Read This Fascinating Piece of History & Discover Your True Individual Nature.

Are You A Normal Person; Are You Average? Read This Fascinating Piece of History & Discover Your True Individual Nature.

The End of Average

Concepts

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Bonding Over Shared Trauma Isn't Trauma Bonding...

Bonding Over Shared Trauma Isn't Trauma Bonding...

Concepts

+5

How to Be Afraid and Do It Anyway

How to Be Afraid and Do It Anyway

That time I told a story at The Moth

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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Dear Little Panicker, I am You All Grown Up, and Here are the Things I Want You To Know.

Dear Little Panicker, I am You All Grown Up, and Here are the Things I Want You To Know.

Childhood

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I am Your Anxious Child All Grown-Up and Here are the Things I Want You to Know.

I am Your Anxious Child All Grown-Up and Here are the Things I Want You to Know.

Childhood

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Vigilance as Vulnerability: The Exhausting Practice of Hypervigilance

Vigilance as Vulnerability: The Exhausting Practice of Hypervigilance

On the Paradoxical Way Protective Instincts Undermine the Very Safety We Seek

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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What Panic Feels Like From Inside the Body of a Child: An Excerpt

What Panic Feels Like From Inside the Body of a Child: An Excerpt

A chapter from Little Panic: Dispatches from an Anxious Life.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

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