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Rachel Carson on the Intelligence of Wonder
Even if you donβt know the names of the stars, you can drink in the beauty and wonder at the meaning of it all.
On January 1, 1965, the Readerβs Digest Association published an anthology of previously published essays dedicated to the challenge of existence, what they so aptly call βthe most difficult of all the arts.β
The book How to Live With Life contains the collective wisdom, insights, and experience of those who, according to the introduction, have βlived deeply, thought profoundly, and cared enormously about sharing with others what they have learned.β
From βhousewivesβ to psychiatrists, this nearly 600-page book abounds with gems that have withstood the sands of time, with many problematic clunkers best relegated to the dustbins of the past.
Divided into sections about how we liveβwith people, ourselves, reality, purpose, wisdom, and destinyβeach area of struggle is meted out among the great thinkers and doers of the time, with essays from actor Danny Kaye to The Power of Positive Thinking author Norman Vincent Peale.
However, perhaps the most fascinating comes from American marine biologist and conservationist Rachel Carson, who launched the modern environmental movement with her 1962 book Silent Spring. That book brought Carsonβs environmental concerns to the publicβs attention, had a profound impact on our country, as she revealed how toxic and destructive synthetic pesticides were, leading to positive policy change, a ban on DDT, and the creation of the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA).
Carson brings her wisdom to wonder in the natural world in this collection.
First published in Womenβs Companion Magazine, Carsonβs piece is βHelp Your Child to Wonder.β

Long before Tomohide Akiyama, the director of the Japanese Forestry Agency, gave the world the term Shinrin-yoku, or βForest Bathing,β Rachel Carson gave voice to nature. She understood with her whole soul the vital life source that nature offers; she appreciated the power of the forest.
When her nephew Roger, whom she would later adopt and parent, was 20 months old, she wrapped him in a cozy blanket, ferried him down to the beach after dark in the rain, following calls of crash and froth, a glorious glitter of confetti illuminating the sky, the showering salty mist of ocean spray on their skin, to take in the symphonic sundries of the natural world.

Carson believed, as I do, in the vital imperative of being able to feel. Attunement with feeling is a depth that grows a personβs spirit. Learned knowledge might grow a personβs mind, but it cannot expand their resilience and fortitude like sitting with the tumult of emotion to arrive safely at the waiting harbor on the other side.
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Roger, Carsonβs nephew
It is not half so important to know as to feel. Once the emotions have been arousedβa sense of the beautiful, the excitement of the unknown, a feeling of sympathy or admirationβthen the wish for knowledge will follow.

Roger, Carsonβs nephew
The wonder that the world can instill in a child is something no book or class can ever teach. βIt is not half so important to know as to feel,β wrote Carson. Once children feel the thrill of awe, they will seek the knowledge they need to know more.
She assures adults they neednβt worry about what they know of the world and what they donβt.
After all, meaning comes from feeling, not from names, Carson said.
She made clear that access and location should not be seen as limitations. If youβre in a city, βyou can always look at the sky, the clouds, the stars and listen to the wind. You can feel the rain on your face and think of its long passage from sea to air to earthβ¦go to the park and observe the mysterious migrations of the birds, the changing seasons, and the seeds of plants.β
And by all means, donβt forget to look at the microcosm of the macrocosm. Bring a lens and a small microscope and study the grains that make up the sand and the patterns that make up the world.
Carson felt the natural world was the antidote to sorrow, loneliness, and struggle. When youβre in nature and you allow yourself to be still, you canβt help but hear the wind echo inside your body, the lilt of trees swaying you. The entire world holds us inside the vast dome of its unknown self, imploring us to know, respect, and treat it with the same kindness and understanding each of us longs for.
Those who dwell along the beauties and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life. Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts. There is something infinitely healing in the repeated refrains of natureβthe assurance that dawn comes after night and spring after winter.
So, go outside, even if itβs just for five minutes, and look at the sky, the nearest tree, or the closest star.
Head to the park and pick up a leaf. Tend to the small things that make up the big things because everything that makes us suffer can be broken down into small things. Letβs get used to identifying the world around us to better identify the feelings inside us.
Until next week, I will remainβ¦

Amanda
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