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Amanda Stern

Amanda Stern is the author of 13 books: Little Panic: Dispatches From an Anxious Life; The Long Haul, and 11 books for kids written under the pseudonyms Fiona Rosenbloom and AJ Stern. One of those books, "You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!" is now a Netflix movie starring Adam Sandler. She's working on her next novel and lives in Brooklyn with her dog, Busy.


The Ceremony Is the Cure: What the Rest of the World Knows That We Don't

The Ceremony Is the Cure: What the Rest of the World Knows That We Don't

On the cultural wisdom of honoring what we have no words for

Concepts

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There’s a Name for the Texture of Being You

There’s a Name for the Texture of Being You

There is a layer of your experience so personal it defeats language entirely. Analytic Philosophy knows its name.

Concepts

+3

Peter Levine and the Trembling Cure: On the Body's Buried Intelligence

Peter Levine and the Trembling Cure: On the Body's Buried Intelligence

What a lifetime of research into trauma and instinct reveals about the one place suffering actually lives

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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February TL;DR

February TL;DR

Pieces too long? Read this monthly summary!

Ntozake Shange Refused to Pathologize Herself. Here's What She Did Instead.

Ntozake Shange Refused to Pathologize Herself. Here's What She Did Instead.

On mental illness, artistic form, and who gets to decide what's real

Concepts

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One of America’s Most Important Thinkers Is Someone You've Never Heard Of.

One of America’s Most Important Thinkers Is Someone You've Never Heard Of.

Anna Julia Cooper and the erasure of women’s thought

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

In the late 1990s, I met a stranger on the subway, and (illegally) married him a few hours later.

Friendship

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Do You Matter?

Do You Matter?

Five questions that highlight the quality of your connections

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

If you need this work but can’t pay...

If you need this work but can’t pay...

How to Live's two-for-one model

Resources

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January TL;DR

January TL;DR

Pieces too long? Read this monthly summary!

A Small Library of Comfort for Anxious Times

A Small Library of Comfort for Anxious Times

We are not meant to manage fear alone. These resources have been my village.

Childhood

+7

Change Your Life Using Design Thinking From IDEO.

Change Your Life Using Design Thinking From IDEO.

What happens when you stop trying to fix yourself—and start prototyping your life instead?

Concepts

+2

What it Means to be a Self.

What it Means to be a Self.

Where Does the "I" of ME Live?

Concepts

+3

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

How mislabeling our experience is keeping us stuck

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

December TL;DR

December TL;DR

Pieces too long? Read this monthly summary!

tl;dr

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

The sci-fi legend's practice of writing from the future

Concepts

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This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

Why You Don’t See What Shapes Your Thinking

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How We Think About How We Think

How We Think About How We Think

A Nazi soldier, a Nobel Prize, and the map of human irrationality

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

The Most Important Parenting Question You've Never Been Asked

The Most Important Parenting Question You've Never Been Asked

The well-meaning behavior that harms children

Concepts

+4

November TL;DR

November TL;DR

Pieces too long? Read this monthly summary!

tl;dr

The Sixth-Grade Seating Chart That Changed Psychology

The Sixth-Grade Seating Chart That Changed Psychology

Carol Dweck: 10 Steps to Adaptible Intelligence

How To Live Holiday Guide

How To Live Holiday Guide

How to give good gifts

Small Delights

+4

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

D.W. Winnicott's unsettling theory about the catastrophe you're still waiting for

Concepts

+7

October TL;DR

October TL;DR

Pieces too long? Read this monthly summary!

tl;dr

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

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