Freud Said It Was Your Father. His Best Student Said It Was Your Birth.

Otto Rank on Life and Death Fear

The Psychologist Who Discovered That Thoughts Shape Suffering

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Closing the Gap Between Knowing and Naming

A short glossary of unnamed experience

How to Speak: Patrick Winston on Being Unafraid.

He gave the same lecture for forty years, and millions of strangers who'd never take his class started watching anyway.

On Mistaking Anxiety for Perfectionism

The subtle ways anxiety reorganizes itself as virtue

Peter Levine and the Question of Where Fear Goes.

On our body's buried intelligence

A Small Library of Comfort for Anxious Times

We are not meant to manage fear alone. These resources have been my village.

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

How mislabeling our experience is keeping us stuck

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

D.W. Winnicott's unsettling theory about the catastrophe you're still waiting for

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

From Puppies to Panic: ASK ME ANYTHING

Answering readers' questions about mental health!

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

The Strange Human Habit of Believing Our Thoughts

In the space between thinking and feeling

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Fake Cancer, Real Epiphany: On Malta, Winter, and the Freedom of the Unknown

On the unexpected ways illness, isolation, and geography shape our courage

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

For Adam W, and for you...

How a Therapist’s Intuition Led to a Revolutionary Trauma Treatment

What a figure skater who couldn't land her jump revealed about where trauma actually lives

BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'

The Thing That Didn't Leave.

Are You Really Free? The Silent Struggle That Might Be Holding You Back

Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder

6 Norms You Don't Have to Meet

So let's smash them

Use This Tibetan Buddhist Concept to De-escalate Any Situation

Getting Hooked On Shenpa

Anxiety Expert Dr. Chansky's Rules for Ruminators

How to control your thoughts by choosing what to think about