On Mistaking Anxiety for Perfectionism

The subtle ways anxiety reorganizes itself as virtue

Peter Levine and the Trembling Cure: On the Body's Buried Intelligence

What a lifetime of research into trauma and instinct reveals about the one place suffering actually lives

A Small Library of Comfort for Anxious Times

We are not meant to manage fear alone. These resources have been my village.

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

How mislabeling our experience is keeping us stuck

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

D.W. Winnicott's unsettling theory about the catastrophe you're still waiting for

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

From Puppies to Panic: ASK ME ANYTHING

Answering readers' questions about mental health!

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Fake Cancer, Real Epiphany: On Malta, Winter, and the Freedom of the Unknown

On the unexpected ways illness, isolation, and geography shape our courage

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

For Adam W, and for you...

How a Therapist’s Intuition Led to a Revolutionary Trauma Treatment

What a figure skater who couldn't land her jump revealed about where trauma actually lives

BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'

The Thing That Didn't Leave.

Are You Really Free? The Silent Struggle That Might Be Holding You Back

Adult Separation Anxiety Disorder

6 Norms You Don't Have to Meet

So let's smash them

Use This Tibetan Buddhist Concept to De-escalate Any Situation

Getting Hooked On Shenpa

Anxiety Expert Dr. Chansky's Rules for Ruminators

How to control your thoughts by choosing what to think about

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Childhood Separation Anxiety

A Conversation with Natasha Daniels

Mental Health Related Holiday Gifts for EVERYONE of ALL AGES

A highly curated selection of my favorites.

Do You Ever Feel Unreal, Like You're Separated From Yourself?

Decoding Dissociation, Depersonalization and Derealization