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Use This Tibetan Buddhist Concept to De-escalate Any Situation

GETTING HOOKED

Being the sole citizen living inside the micro-nation of our minds means that during conversations with others, we can veer off onto well-trod paths paved with familiar fantasies, and seek private comfort in the unseen world of our thoughts, and no one will be the wiser.

It happens all the time—we’re lost in thought, ruminating on wishes and worries, when something untoward snaps us back into the present moment.

A comment or situation triggers an intense emotional reaction, releasing an ancient ache buried within us, which emerges as upset, rage, or anger.

This charged tightness that arises before our emotions escalate has a name, and learning it has truly changed my life for the better.

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