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Amanda Stern

Amanda Stern is the author of 13 books: Little Panic: Dispatches From an Anxious Life; The Long Haul, and 11 books for kids written under the pseudonyms Fiona Rosenbloom and AJ Stern. One of those books, "You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!" is now a Netflix movie starring Adam Sandler. She's working on her next novel and lives in Brooklyn with her dog, Busy.


October TL;DR

October TL;DR

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Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Invention of Self-Doubt

The Invention of Self-Doubt

Why Our Doubts Say More About the World Than About Us

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

Proust's First Selfie

Proust's First Selfie

The Victorian parlour game that became a cultural mirror.

Small Delights

+2

September TL;DR

September TL;DR

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Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+9

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

The Self-Awareness Paradox: Why 95% of Us Are Wrong About Ourselves

You're not as self-aware as you think (and neither am I)

Concepts

+4

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Concepts

+5

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

A Cabinet of Curiosities for the Human Experience

A Cabinet of Curiosities for the Human Experience

Discover the Wellcome Collection, London’s free museum of health, history, and imagination.

Small Delights

+3

AUGUST TL;DR

AUGUST TL;DR

Pieces too long? Read this monthly summary!

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Easiest People to Control

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Con Artist Convincing Millions To Hack Reality

The Con Artist Convincing Millions To Hack Reality

Millions of people are using mysterious numbers to manifest love, money, and healing — but few really know their backstory.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+1

JULY TL;DR

JULY TL;DR

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What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

What We Mourn When We Mourn a Celebrity

On Tom Lehrer, Malcolm-Jamal Warner, and collapsed space.

Concepts

+6

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

Notes from an Ontological Misfit

Concepts

+4

Things I'm loving: 2 books, 1 artist and 1 song.

Things I'm loving: 2 books, 1 artist and 1 song.

What's getting me through

Small Delights

+2

JUNE TL;DR

JUNE TL;DR

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tl;dr

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The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

On Becoming a Person

On Becoming a Person

Carl Rogers on the painful gap between our true selves and performed selves

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

From Puppies to Panic: ASK ME ANYTHING

From Puppies to Panic: ASK ME ANYTHING

Answering readers' questions about mental health!

Premium

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