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Peter Levine and the Trembling Cure: On the Body's Buried Intelligence

Peter Levine and the Trembling Cure: On the Body's Buried Intelligence

What a lifetime of research into trauma and instinct reveals about the one place suffering actually lives

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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Ntozake Shange Refused to Pathologize Herself. Here's What She Did Instead.

Ntozake Shange Refused to Pathologize Herself. Here's What She Did Instead.

On mental illness, artistic form, and who gets to decide what's real

Concepts

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One of America’s Most Important Thinkers Is Someone You've Never Heard Of.

One of America’s Most Important Thinkers Is Someone You've Never Heard Of.

Anna Julia Cooper and the erasure of women’s thought

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

Do You Matter?

Do You Matter?

Five questions that highlight the quality of your connections

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

Octavia Butler's Method for Reaching Impossible Goals

The sci-fi legend's practice of writing from the future

Concepts

+4

This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

This Forgotten 67-Year-Old Technique Reveals Your Blind Spots

Why You Don’t See What Shapes Your Thinking

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How We Think About How We Think

How We Think About How We Think

A Nazi soldier, a Nobel Prize, and the map of human irrationality

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

The Invention of Self-Doubt

The Invention of Self-Doubt

Why Our Doubts Say More About the World Than About Us

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Concepts

+5

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

Notes from an Ontological Misfit

Concepts

+4

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+12

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

How to Learn Anything, Really

How to Learn Anything, Really

Richard Feynman’s Timeless Strategy

Concepts

+4

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

In the late 1990s, I met a stranger on the subway, and (illegally) married him a few hours later.

Systems

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The Basement Prisoners: How Dorothea Dix Exposed America's Hidden Mental Health Horrors

The Basement Prisoners: How Dorothea Dix Exposed America's Hidden Mental Health Horrors

A 19th Century Teacher's Campaign Revolutionized Patient Care

Systems

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Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

John Sarno and the History of Psychosomatic Illness

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

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Feeling Before Thinking: What Susan Sontag Taught Us About Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Feeling Before Thinking: What Susan Sontag Taught Us About Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Concepts

+5

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

For Adam W, and for you...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

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