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The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.
Apr 23, 2025

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion
Mar 26, 2025

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession
Mar 05, 2025

The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession

The intrusive and inescapable high that isn't love, at all.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband
Feb 12, 2025

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

In the late 1990s, I met a stranger on the subway, and (illegally) married him a few hours later.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Parents & Couples Respond to Last Week's "Single & Excluded" Newsletter.
Oct 30, 2024

Parents & Couples Respond to Last Week's "Single & Excluded" Newsletter.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
On Loneliness and Exclusion: The Hidden Architecture of the Single Life
Oct 23, 2024

On Loneliness and Exclusion: The Hidden Architecture of the Single Life

When One is the Loneliest Number

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Things Worth Sharing: What I'm Reading, Watching & Thinking About
Oct 09, 2024

Things Worth Sharing: What I'm Reading, Watching & Thinking About

Current doings at Stern Enterprises

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Loneliness Cure: Dr. Ruth’s Practical Wisdom for Connection
Sep 04, 2024

The Loneliness Cure: Dr. Ruth’s Practical Wisdom for Connection

The Secret of Connection from New York’s Loneliness Ambassador

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'
Aug 25, 2024

BONUS POST: My Lifelong 'Childhood Disorder.'

The Thing That Didn't Leave.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Why Saying “I Love You” Is Not Enough.
Aug 21, 2024

Why Saying “I Love You” Is Not Enough.

And what to say instead.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
If You’re Trying to Avoid Reality, How Can You Face Your Life?
Jul 31, 2024

If You’re Trying to Avoid Reality, How Can You Face Your Life?

James Baldwin in Two Little Known Gems.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Don't Know Who You Are? These Games Can Help.
Jun 05, 2024

Don't Know Who You Are? These Games Can Help.

Learning Yourself Through Play.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing the stories behind what drives us.

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Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing the stories behind what drives us.

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