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The Invention of Self-Doubt

The Invention of Self-Doubt

Why Our Doubts Say More About the World Than About Us

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

Concepts

+5

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

Notes from an Ontological Misfit

Concepts

+4

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+12

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

How to Learn Anything, Really

How to Learn Anything, Really

Richard Feynman’s Timeless Strategy

Concepts

+4

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+7

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

In the late 1990s, I met a stranger on the subway, and (illegally) married him a few hours later.

Systems

+2

The Basement Prisoners: How Dorothea Dix Exposed America's Hidden Mental Health Horrors

The Basement Prisoners: How Dorothea Dix Exposed America's Hidden Mental Health Horrors

A 19th Century Teacher's Campaign Revolutionized Patient Care

Systems

+2

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

John Sarno and the History of Psychosomatic Illness

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+8

Feeling Before Thinking: What Susan Sontag Taught Us About Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Feeling Before Thinking: What Susan Sontag Taught Us About Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

Concepts

+5

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

For Adam W, and for you...

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+6

In the Depths of Uncertainty: Rebecca Solnit on Keeping Hope Alive

In the Depths of Uncertainty: Rebecca Solnit on Keeping Hope Alive

What we do now matters

Concepts

+4

On Glimmers and Grounding: A Guide to Rebalancing Your Nervous System

On Glimmers and Grounding: A Guide to Rebalancing Your Nervous System

Polyvagal Theory and the Vagus Nerve

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

Parents & Couples Respond to Last Week's "Single & Excluded" Newsletter.

Parents & Couples Respond to Last Week's "Single & Excluded" Newsletter.

Systems

+4

On Loneliness and Exclusion: The Hidden Architecture of the Single Life

On Loneliness and Exclusion: The Hidden Architecture of the Single Life

When One is the Loneliest Number

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+4

Art as Liberation: How a Viennese Psychiatric Institute Became a Sanctuary for Creativity

Art as Liberation: How a Viennese Psychiatric Institute Became a Sanctuary for Creativity

How The House of Artists at Gugging Became a Model for Psychiatric Reform

Concepts

+7

The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.

The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.

The Second Arrow of Awfulizing

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+10

All in Your Head: Franz Gall, the Fowler Brothers, and the Science That Wasn’t

All in Your Head: Franz Gall, the Fowler Brothers, and the Science That Wasn’t

Phrenology, Franz Gall & The Fowler Brothers

Maladaptive Responses & Behaviors

+5

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