Systems

The Overlooked Observation That Keeps Us Coming Back

Bluma Zeigarnik’s framework for designing focus and closure.

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

A Field Guide to Spotting Manipulation in Real Time

Crib sheet for the road

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

Notes from an Ontological Misfit

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

How to Influence Who You Become—Using Neuroscience

Our brains have hidden systems. Here's how to use them...

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

The Politics of Being Alone: The Systemic Bias Against Singles.

When One is the Loneliest Number

How to Learn Anything, Really

Richard Feynman’s Timeless Strategy

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

The True Story of My Fake Ex-Husband

In the late 1990s, I met a stranger on the subway, and (illegally) married him a few hours later.