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The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves
Jul 09, 2025

The Social Experiment That Changed How We Understand Ourselves

Solomon Asch and the unbearable pull of agreement.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
On Becoming a Person
Jul 02, 2025

On Becoming a Person

Carl Rogers on the painful gap between our true selves and performed selves

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival
May 14, 2025

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows
Apr 09, 2025

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Necessary Unknown: The Voynich Manuscript, Winnicott's Third Space, and Why We Need What We Cannot Understand
Mar 19, 2025

The Necessary Unknown: The Voynich Manuscript, Winnicott's Third Space, and Why We Need What We Cannot Understand

The cognitive pull of the unsolvable

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession
Mar 05, 2025

The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession

The intrusive and inescapable high that isn't love, at all.

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.
Jan 22, 2025

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Albert Bandura on Self-Efficacy: The Science of Confidence and the Belief in One’s Potential
Jan 08, 2025

Albert Bandura on Self-Efficacy: The Science of Confidence and the Belief in One’s Potential

Why Confidence is a Practice, Not a Trait

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Science of Connection: What Four Decades of Attachment Research Reveals About Our Deepest Human Bonds
Dec 18, 2024

The Science of Connection: What Four Decades of Attachment Research Reveals About Our Deepest Human Bonds

Understanding the Invisible Architecture of Human Attachment

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Art as Liberation: How a Viennese Psychiatric Institute Became a Sanctuary for Creativity
Oct 02, 2024

Art as Liberation: How a Viennese Psychiatric Institute Became a Sanctuary for Creativity

How The House of Artists at Gugging Became a Model for Psychiatric Reform

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.
Sep 25, 2024

The Psychology of Catastrophizing: The Hidden Logic of Self-Torment.

The Second Arrow of Awfulizing

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
All in Your Head: Franz Gall, the Fowler Brothers, and the Science That Wasn’t
Sep 18, 2024

All in Your Head: Franz Gall, the Fowler Brothers, and the Science That Wasn’t

Phrenology, Franz Gall & The Fowler Brothers

Amanda Stern
Amanda Stern
Every Wednesday, author Amanda Stern explores the hidden forces of the mind, unearthing what really drives us.

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