A Small Library of Comfort for Anxious Times

We are not meant to manage fear alone. These resources have been my village.

On the Difference Between Feeling and Emotion

How mislabeling our experience is keeping us stuck

Why Trying to Feel Safe Never Works: Winnicott on the Fear of Breakdown

D.W. Winnicott's unsettling theory about the catastrophe you're still waiting for

The Secret Life of Coping: The Private Strategies of an Anxious Person

From the Mixed-Up Files of Ms. Amanda J. Sternweiler

Susan Sontag On Experience as the True Language of Understanding

Why Direct Experience Transcends Academic Knowledge

The Unbearable Lightness of Not Being Yourself

How I Stopped Being Myself Long Enough to Get Better

The Invention of Self-Doubt

Why Our Doubts Say More About the World Than About Us

Your Brain Is a Liar. Here's How One Psychiatrist Proved It.

Teaching our minds manners and etiquette.

The Only Manual For Living You'll Ever Need

The Hidden Document I Return to When I Come Undone

The Tender Architecture of Childhood

The First Ever How to Live Newsletter

The Easiest People to Control

Why Smart, Well-Meaning Citizens Still Fall for Dangerous Leaders

When You Feel Out of Place in the Human Condition

Notes from an Ontological Misfit

Notes & Thoughts: The New York Times 1st Well Festival

The Meaning We Make: How Neutral Thoughts Become Personal Truth

In the space between thinking and feeling

The Hidden Language of Healing: 10 Things Every Great Therapist Knows

A primer on what's left unsaid

The Vigilant Heart: Hypervigilance and Emotional Exhaustion

What neuroscience and attachment theory teach us about the exhausting vigilance that keeps love at bay

Seven Inquiries That Reveal the Hidden Self

What you avoid asking might be what you need to know most.

The Beautiful Trap: How Limerence Warps Perception and Fuels Obsession

The intrusive and inescapable high that isn't love, at all.

The Basement Prisoners: How Dorothea Dix Exposed America's Hidden Mental Health Horrors

A 19th Century Teacher's Campaign Revolutionized Patient Care

Medicine Without Medicine: The Radical Cure of a Beloved Cult Doctor

John Sarno and the History of Psychosomatic Illness

The Survival Paradox: How Sexual Violence Hijacks Our Most Ancient Protection System and Why Victims Comfort Their Abusers.

On Fawning, in Response to the New York Article about Neil Gaiman

The Science of Connection: What Four Decades of Attachment Research Reveals About Our Deepest Human Bonds

Understanding the Invisible Architecture of Human Attachment

The Art of Surrender: Finding Sleep at 3am

For Adam W, and for you...

In the Depths of Uncertainty: Rebecca Solnit on Keeping Hope Alive

What we do now matters

On Loneliness and Exclusion: The Hidden Architecture of the Single Life

When One is the Loneliest Number