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Creative Inputs: Artists, Ideas, and One Song on Repeat
Hello from Malta!
Things here arenβt going so wellβhousing issues, but I promise Iβll fill you in another time. Iβm feeling pretty miserable and searching for anything to lift my spirits.
For me, that usually means discovering things that fire up my neurons.
Friends, on that front, Iβve succeeded. Today, Iβm sharing the best things Iβve stumbled upon, introducing you to someone who always gets me through.
Stumbled upons
A book was on the counter at my friend Jen's and Adamβs house. The cover appealed to me, but it was padded, which I took to mean it was for kids, so I left it closed.
The next time I was over, the book was still on the counter, and Jen mentioned itβsheβd discovered the artist at PS 1, where his work was being exhibited.
It wasnβt a book for kids. (Assumptions, always steering me away from what I need.)
I opened it and wandered slowly across the pages. I found it sad, poignant, and funnyβmy three favorite things.
The book is called Things Felt But Not Quite Expressed, and itβs by artist Sohrab Hura.


The Offset Bookshop is a curated collection of independent publishing projects focusing on South Asian artists. I find their books so special.
Figures
Peter Schmidt
Jen and Adamβs friend Dawn was also over, and she mentioned Oblique Strategy Cards. Iβd never heard of these, and when I got home, I dove down into every possible rabbit hole and discovered not only the cards, but who and what led to their existence.
Enter Peter Schmidt, a Berlin-born British artist, painter, theoretician of color and composition, pioneering multimedia exhibitor, and an influential teacher at Watford College of Art,* and his βThoughts behind the Thoughts.β
(* Taken directly from Wikipedia)
When stuck, or struck with an incapacitating stress, Peter Schmidt was bumped out of the flow of his work, and found it hard to return. This is a familiar conundrum to most artists, and we all have workarounds.
This is why I donβt take lunches with anyone during the week; itβs too disruptive to my work.

Some of Peter Schmidtβs early Artwork
Peter Schmidt began writing down sentences that helped him return to the state of flow. He called his cards βThoughts Behind the Thoughtsβ and printed 55 sentences on letterpress to create a box of cards.
When he met the musician and visual artist Brian Eno, both discovered they had this in common, but Eno called his handwritten axioms βOblique Strategies.β
Hereβs a peek at Schmidt and Enoβs early Oblique Strategiesβ¦
Peter Schmidtβs first box of Thoughts Behind the Thoughtsβ¦

Peter Schmidtβs box of Thoughts Behind the Thoughts cards.
Enoβs first Oblique Strategy viewer and cardsβ¦

Brian Enoβs early Oblique Strategy Sentence Viewer

Brian Enoβs handwritten Oblique Strategy Cards
In 1974, the two decided to join forces, merging their cards into one deck and releasing them to the public.
The cards were an instant hit, selling out three limited-edition printings. But in early 1980, just as their influence was growing, Schmidt died suddenly of a heart attack. With no new editions in production, the decks became rare collectorsβ items, their prices climbing over the years.
Oblique Strategies evolved from me being in a number of working situations when the panic of the situationβparticularly in studiosβtended to make me quickly forget that there were other ways of working and that there were tangential ways of attacking problems that were in many senses more interesting than the direct head-on approach.
In 1996, software pioneer Peter Norton convinced Eno to collaborate on a fourth edition, not for sale but as Christmas gifts for his friends. Some copies have since surfaced at auctions but were never meant for the public.
Eno reflected on this revival and his creative process in A Year with Swollen Appendices. Interest in the cards never faded, and in 2001, Eno released yet another edition.
Each version has had slight changesβsome cards added, some removedβkeeping the deck constantly evolving. In 2013, a limited run of 500 decks was released in a deep burgundy box instead of the usual black.
For those obsessed with Oblique Strategies, musician and educator Gregory Alan Taylor has painstakingly documented the full history on a website widely considered the definitive source, including every card ever printed.
These are David Bowieβs well-worn cards.

David Bowieβs Oblique Strategy Cards
Moral of the Story:
Go to your friendβs house.
Song Iβm revisiting
I first came across Katell Keineg in the early 90s when I lived above Sin-Γ© In the East Village. I would listen to Jeff Buckley, Mark Geary, and Katell Keineg, musicians who soon became my pals.
I loved (and love) her voice. Itβs atypical: gravelly, strong and occasionally faltering, worn, wise and original. Her voice has everything I like in a person.
Sheβs still one of my favorite musicians. I own every album, know each song, and when Iβm feeling contemplative, itβs raining a forever rain, or democracy is quickly falling, this song is the one I play.
Nathalie Merchant covered it and gave it some legs, but Iβll always be true to the writer of the original song.
Please donβt give up before the first chorus.
Until next week, I will remainβ¦

Amanda
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