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To Endure, One Must Evolve: The Next Phase of How to Live

Dear Readers,

Change is uncomfortable—especially when it comes with uncertainty. I hate it, you hate it, we all hate it.

And yet, research in neuroscience and behavioral psychology shows that facing what we’d rather avoid strengthens resilience, builds self-trust, and deepens our sense of worth. Choosing discomfort over avoidance reshapes what we believe we’re capable of—and that belief changes everything.

Today, I’m making a change I’ve resisted for a long time.

For the past three years, I’ve poured everything I know and have into How to Live—stories, tools, insights, personal struggles, and the wisdom hard won from navigating a life made difficult by mental health conditions—to help make life feel more manageable. Offering it freely has been my greatest joy—and my biggest challenge.

Despite trying every reader-supported model, sustainability has remained out of reach. In order to evolve and keep How to Live thoughtful, meaningful, and high-quality, I need to change how this work is supported.

Starting next month, most of How to Live will be available through a paid subscription.

This wasn’t an easy decision, but it’s necessary to keep delivering deeply researched, thoughtful content. I’m excited to expand our focus by exploring the psychology behind current events, examining interpersonal dynamics in literature and art, spotlighting overlooked pioneers in psychology, and sharing more personal stories and life strategies—all while offering practical, evidence-based tools from leading clinicians.

Why Subscribe?

You’re supporting thoughtful, research-driven writing shaped by lived experience. Drawing on decades of personal and professional exploration in psychology, philosophy, depression, and panic disorder—along with active engagement with current research and methods—I simplify complex concepts through storytelling. My work creates tools to help you—and those you care about—navigate life, manage emotions, and feel less alone.

What’s Changing?

•  $6/month: The cost of one NYC coffee gets you 86 articles a year—just 84 cents per article.

•  Still Free: TL;DR summaries and occasional public posts will remain free.

Nothing will change for those who already donate and subscribe for $6/month or more.

If finances are tight, reach out—we’ll find a way.

This change honors the value of this work while ensuring How to Live continues as a thoughtful, supportive resource for everyone in this growing community.

Thank you for being here. Your support makes this possible.

With gratitude,
Amanda

Until next week I will remain…

P.S. Thank you for reading! This newsletter is my passion and livelihood, and it thrives because of readers like you. If it’s brought you value, please consider donating to keep it going—or share it with a friend who might benefit. Every bit helps, and I’m deeply grateful for your support. 💙

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